As I said in my last post, some people don’t necessarily struggle in their financial life because of overspending. They hit their emotional and financial bottom because of their relationship with their work and earning. And it’s not always because they are not making enough money.
When Diane began working with me, she was very stressed out. While it was true that she and her husband had debt and were in a deep money fog, it did seem like she earned “enough” money. They enjoyed a nice lifestyle, but something was not working.
She felt she was working simply to work, and she could not envision a happy future where she could relax more.
Diane worked as a counselor in the employee assistance department of a large bank. For twelve years she answered calls to the company’s crisis hotline, helping callers manage various personal and professional crises. The calls covered workplace traumas such as bank robberies and mental health emergencies such as suicidal thoughts, family violence, and child abuse.
Dianne listened to literally hundreds of calls per year in which people described in vivid detail, the most traumatic moments of their lives.
Her empathy made her good at her work but it also made her vulnerable to the emotional stress that came with it.
While providing support to troubled callers gave Dianne great satisfaction, and the compensation she received eventually grew to be a six-figure salary, the emotional impact of her work became unbearable. She was unable to sleep. She felt raw at the end of each day; as though she was missing her outermost layer of skin, and she found she could no longer tolerate watching the news or movies with any element of intensity. Her wrung-out emotional state and long hours made Dianne less available for her children’s needs. She also saw during our work that she was doing a lot of emotional spending to make herself feel better.
As she progressed in her Financial Recovery work, Dianne and her husband began to see that some things were more important than a six-figure salary and the lifestyle it supported.
After careful consideration, they decided that it would be best for Dianne to find a less stressful job. This necessitated some big changes for them. Their annual spending plan helped provide information and insights they needed to make these changes without comprising their ability to meet their needs. They saw that by downsizing, selling their home, and moving to a less expensive community, they could live on a smaller income and be more available to their kids. Dianne developed a small private practice in her new community where she enjoyed the satisfaction of helping people without the relentless exposure to trauma.
Diane and her husband reduced their income but adjusted their lives to make that income work. As a result, Dianne’s work is now working for herself.
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