Have you ever taken a moment to explore the ways your childhood shaped your relationship with money?
If you grew up around role models who had a healthy relationship with money, you were very lucky.
But if money has been an area of struggle for you, it pays to look back at your early family experiences.
Let’s look at a few ways old family dynamics can play out in your work and earning choices.
Some people grow up in affluent families, bonded mainly by the presence of family money. The knowledge that someone will always rescue them, either by gift or inheritance, extinguishes the fire in their belly for making their own way in the world.
Other people grow up with modest means and as adults feel deep guilt for wanting a financial life bigger than the one from childhood. They may minimize their desire for a bigger life and judge these dreams as shallow or selfish.
Family messages can also come to bear. Just think, did you hear any of the following from your family member(s):
Or you’re craving more autonomy or financial freedom.
Or you keep thinking, “There’s got to be a better way to make a living.”
It could be that your work isn’t working for you…
And for your financial health, this matters a great deal because for most of us, work and money are inseparable.
Many people view work as just a means of earning money, but it can be so much more than that. This is true even if you work and don’t earn money (i.e. volunteering or being a stay-at-home mom).
Work can be a space where we express what’s important to us, where we tap into talents and qualities that make us unique.
When our work “works” for us, it fulfills many of our needs. It can be a rich source of satisfaction, confidence, success, and self-worth.
But as so many of us know, when our relationship with work (and the money it provides) is NOT working, it can cause...
Many people on the road to financial recovery assume—at first anyway—that looking at your finances means you will no longer get to enjoy anything fun.
You imagine creating a list of what you are “allowed” to buy—and signing your soul over to a financial prison where it’s all work and no play. No wonder people put off addressing their finances!
If giving up all the fun, pleasurable things forever was required to heal your relationship with money, who would want to do this?
Strict narrow thinking and rigid spending plans make it impossible to stay the course. This is why I advocate a financial recovery process that feels good, and that revolves around your specific needs.
My friend Angela figured this out while looking for a new apartment. Her first impulse was to spend the bare minimum on rent. I remember her words, all she needed was “a box on a bus line”.
But as Angela looked at apartments within her original price range, she realized...
Every now and then, when I’m talking to someone who’s interested in taking the Financial Recovery Counselor Training, I’ll be asked, “Can you tell me what it’s like to have a career as a Financial Recovery Counselor?”
These kinds of questions inspired me to start a new series of blog posts in which I interview some of my past trainees who’ve gone on to build lucrative practices in Financial Recovery. Today, I’m happy to feature my interview with Carrie Friedberg, who became a certified Financial Recovery Counselor in 2010 and now has a thriving practice in New York.
Through a holistic coaching process, Carrie guides her clients in taking an honest look at their income and expenses then helps them create a flexible framework for making consistent and guilt-free financial decisions. You can visit Carrie’s website here.
What were you doing before you knew about Financial Recovery or the Financial Recovery Institute?
I was an...