In a therapy session several years ago, I was talking about my childhood. I described the instability of my early years as I was passed from one temporary home to another. I recalled the lack of warmth and comfort I felt, which I didn’t even realize I’d been missing until later. By the time I was 6, a kidney disease diagnosis left my living in a hospital for months at a time. I had few visitors and ached with loneliness, enduring several surgeries and the removal of one kidney. Once I was finally out of the woods with my kidney disease, I was diagnosed with polio.
My therapist sat silently for a moment after I recalled my story. Then he said something that’s stuck with me for years: “I knew you had grit.”
Hearing him put my resilience into words made me feel appreciated, and seen. It felt like a true reflection of my journey.
Years later, I discovered Angela Duckworth, author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. In an...
It is my honor and pleasure to introduce you to Dana Conley, our newest Certified Financial Recovery Counselor!
Dana brings a wealth of education and training to the Financial Recovery process. As a Life Transformation Coach for 15 years, Dana has inspired and supported hundreds of individuals in private sessions, classes, and workshops to develop mindfulness, master their mindset, and manifest their dreams. Her background and experience in holistic healing, teaching, and coaching perfectly complements the Financial Recovery process and gives her clients a variety of tools to heal their relationship with money and create a richer life.
Dana is a life-long learner that loves to educate and empower others through stories. I asked her to share a bit about herself and part of her own money story to illustrate her unique approach to her Financial Recovery practice.
MY FINANCIAL RECOVERY JOURNEY
Like most people, my journey to becoming a Financial Recovery Counselor was a long and winding...
During our Monthly Money Monday Show on April 6, 2020, the women and men of our community came together to talk about the uncertainty of what we’re facing during this time of crisis.
We shared our stories and I shared some of my tips and thoughts about navigating truly tough times.
Joining us on this recording of our show are Wendy Wright, Financial Therapist (and Certified Financial Recovery Counselor) and Dana Conley, Financial Recovery Counselor (known as the “Queen of Calm”) sharing with us how we can stay centered and not panic as we face potential health and financial insecurity.
If you’re worried, losing sleep and stressed you will want to take the time to spend 40 minutes with us. I know there is something valuable you will be able to take away.
To take advantage of our new weekly helping sessions you can join Monthly Money Monday here-- Monthly Money Monday. I’d love for you to join us right away.
It’s my honor to introduce a newly certified Financial Recovery Counselor.
Because she’s also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Wendy sits at a unique intersection of offering her clients both therapy and financial counseling. She’s one of very few people who qualify as a Financial Therapist.
I interviewed Wendy to hear more about her experience becoming a Certified Financial Recovery Counselor.
Financial therapy addresses our emotions around money.
Whether people realize it or not, money isn’t simply a tool we use to buy groceries and own a home. It tends to be a controversial topic of conversation and an emotionally-charged aspect of our lives. Research has shown...
When you think of love, do you think of couples holding hands, romantic songs, or candlelit dinners? I bet you don't think of money problems, stress, and anxiety!
When people are knee-deep in debt, living paycheck to paycheck, or not feeling in control of their finances, they experience shame, fear, anxiety, guilt...But one of the feelings we often forget about is loneliness.
I remember when I came to this realization—it was a Saturday morning in San Francisco many years ago. I was sitting at a sidewalk cafe alone, drinking my latte and reading the SF Chronicle. I was watching couples and groups of people together talking, laughing, and really enjoying themselves.
I really felt my sense of longing deeply then, and I knew that it was time to address this NEED now. By this time, I was focusing on my financial issues, but without even realizing it, I had cut myself off from everyone in the process.
I knew it was time for me to do something about this—I had contact...
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Those stats are staggering!
Sadly, according to a new CreditCards.com poll “Many Americans don’t know when or if they’ll ever get out of debt. That includes 25 percent of people who have debt and think they’ll die before paying it off.”
I certainly don’t want you to spend the rest of your life trying to pay off your debts!
It’s obvious that debt has become a way of life.
But if you’re in debt, you know how this “way of life” can weigh heavily on your peace of mind, diminish your sense of possibility, and darken almost every aspect of your life.
Last week, I shared the first 5 steps of my 10-step formula for getting out of debt and staying out of debt. Now, let’s jump into...
Debt is an embezzler.
It steals your security for the future while dramatically diminishing your quality of life right now. If you are in debt, or have ever been in debt, you know how agonizing and destructive it can be.
Getting out of debt is only the first part of taking back your present peace of mind and your future. The second piece, the most important one, is to stay out of debt.
People get out of debt all the time. Think of it like yo-yo dieting. The debtor goes on a money diet, slims down what they owe and feels tremendous relief--only to find themselves saddled by an even heavier debt load in a few months’ time.
The good news is, you can get and stay, out of debt. Over my thirty-year career as a financial recovery coach I developed a process that works no matter how much debt you are in or how much you earn.
It’s called, "Saving Your Way Out of Debt". And, in this post, I’m going to share the first 5 of 10 steps that will allow you to get out of debt...
Backyard BBQs, picnics at the lake, long awaited vacations to theme parks, beaches, or faraway places—these are our summer rituals and we deserve every minute of fun in the sun and relaxation.
And it seems opportunities to spend are everywhere. Souvenirs, food, new luggage or beach towels. Don’t forget the plane tickets or gas for the car or RV. Have you ever started your day with plenty of cash in your wallet for these kinds of things only to find by night that you can’t remember where it all went?
Maybe, like the majority of us these days, you prefer plastic over cash. Have you ever checked your bank balance thinking you had a certain amount waiting for you only to be disheartened by your low account balance? You’re not alone.
Here’s a sad but true fact; Most people cannot account for how they spend their money. We live in a financial fog, disconnected from the real numbers and unable to understand our own actions.
What’s needed is a way to stay...
One of my occasional guilty pleasures years ago was watching The Oprah Show in the afternoon. My favorites were when she’d do makeovers for a few lucky viewers. Wow, did those folks change!
The new haircuts and color, professional makeup, and a new style of clothing transformed their appearance and also how they felt about themselves. A new look is a powerful change agent.
About a year ago I began to feel that Financial Recovery needed a makeover. I craved new colors and a new style; a look that reflected who I am today vs. who I was 5 and a half years ago when the old one was conceived.
And I was looking for the perfect person to take my money coach training content and turn it into an interactive, online, well designed course.
If any of you have ever had a website or a course built you will understand when I say, it’s stressful finding the right designer. And in the case of an online course, one who understands learning, flow, and engagement.
Who to trust? How to...
As Tax Day approaches, couples may be feeling more financial fear than ever. Yet, money problems present an opportunity for couples to draw closer together, rather than tearing them apart.
“The notion that money is the #1 reason people get divorced is absolutely false. “It may be the symptom of problems in the relationship, but it is not the cause.”
Money often becomes the currency of emotion in a relationship. In this economic environment, romantic partners may be using money as a substitute for addressing common areas of relationship challenges, including:
Anger: There can be danger in anger. If one person in the relationship does not feel their needs are important, or feels they are not being met, they may use money to express anger. Resulting behaviors can include overspending, or closing the purse strings so the other spouse has no money to spend.
Neglect: When someone feels neglected physically or emotionally by their partner, they may use shopping as a form...