The feeling of shame is a soul-crushing emotion. Feeling shame is such a horrible feeling that we go to great lengths to avoid it—we deny our feelings, bury it deep inside and pretend it doesn’t exist.
But shame finds power in denial.
When it comes to finances, living in a financial fog or a money coma (other words for denial) can take its toll.
When I was ignoring my bills, I was in a financial fog. I lived in a state of vagueness that was both a symptom and a contributing factor of many of my money troubles. Like many of us, I was good at ignoring my money problems. As a result, the situation got worse and worse until I was in a full-blown money coma. I was completely unconscious of my money behaviors and the negative impact they were having on my financial, emotional, and spiritual life.
If this sounds familiar, and ...Continue Reading
Before beginning any of my courses, every participant fills out a questionnaire—it’s so important for me to get to know them, their needs, and their goals, and asking a few questions helps me really understand their situation. One of the questions I always ask is: “Do you feel any deprivation or shame around money?”
More often than not, their response tells me about how their shame over money has impacted their relationships. SO many of our relationships touch money in one way or another—we shop with our girlfriends, sisters, and coworkers; we go to lunch, dinner and clubs for entertainment; we create special experiences for family and friends; we assist those in need in our communities.
Those with money issues usually hate the idea of other people finding out about their troubles—so they isolate themselves. They cut...Continue Reading
Happy New Year Everyone!
I know for me the beginning of the year is a great time to think about what’s important…what I want to accomplish, what areas of deprivation I want to heal, what I want and need to earn, and to just tune in to what my soul is craving.
I know I’m not alone. Was 2017 another year where you were always worried about money? Do you feel like that is holding you back?
You may feel as though you look successful on the outside but on the inside you are living in a fog about money. Maybe you feel shame, secrecy or conflict in your relationships and have an overall feeling that there isn’t enough.
I know that feeling. I’ve been there. It wasn’t until I started to think about money in an emotional and practical way that I started to live a richer and truer life. I redesigned my money relationship ...Continue Reading
The holiday season is upon us. Which means many of us find ourselves buying gifts, decorations, extra food for gatherings and parties with family and friends, barely giving a thought to the compounding purchases as we hand the clerk our plastic. It's as though we're on autopilot. We are so busy preparing for the festivities that we don't stop to think about the snowballing totals.
Then, in January, the bill comes. As we look at the total, shocked, we literally feel a knot in the pit of our stomachs and wonder how in the world we could've racked up that much expense. We can't even remember what all the purchases were. We may feel shame for spending so much. “Why—and how—did I spend so much?" we may ask ourselves. We are surprised at how we could've gotten so out of control with our spending. We experience a hangover....a finan...Continue Reading
We all know that although the holidays are a joyful time, they can actually bring great stress in our lives. We often struggle to enjoy the season because of expectations and pressures we put upon ourselves.
Many of us overspend, then greet January with an emotional and spending hangover. Take heart! My MoneyMinder® Holiday Planner can help you create a holiday season that is balanced and financially sane. Below, I’ll share a part of my powerful process.
For years the holidays left me with an emotional and financial hangover.
If you can relate, I’d like to share the process that turned this around for me. The first step to making this holiday season better than previous ones is to examine what worked and what didn’t work with previous seasons. Would you like to do that? It’s not always easy, but let’s give it a try.
Healing Deprivation: The Key to Creating a Life Filled with Meaning, Satisfaction, and Abundance